"The family tie is the closest, the most tender and sacred, of any on
earth. It was designed to be a blessing to mankind. And it is a blessing
wherever the marriage covenant is entered into intelligently, in the fear of
God, and with due consideration for its responsibilities. Every home should be
a place of love, a place where the angels of God abide, working with softening,
subduing influence upon the hearts of parents and children."
"Our homes must be made a Bethel, our hearts a shrine. Wherever the love
of God is cherished in the soul, there will be peace; there will be light and
joy. Christ's Presence Makes a Home Christian. The home that is beautified by
love, sympathy, and tenderness is a place that angels love to visit, and where
God is glorified. The influence of a carefully guarded Christian home in the
years of childhood and youth is the surest safeguard against the corruptions of
the world."
"In the atmosphere of such a home the children will learn to love both
their earthly parents and their heavenly Father. Every Christian family should
illustrate to the world the power and excellence of Christian influence. . .
Holiness to God is to pervade the home. . . . Parents and children are to
educate themselves to co-operate with God. They are to bring their habits and
practices into harmony with God's plans."
"The family relationship should be sanctifying in its influence. Christian homes, established and conducted in accordance with God's plan, are a wonderful help in forming Christian character. . . Parents and children should unite in offering loving service to Him who alone can keep human love pure and noble. The first work to be done in a Christian home is to see that the Spirit of Christ abides there, that every member of the household may be able to take his cross and follow where Jesus leads the way." E.G. White
"The family relationship should be sanctifying in its influence. Christian homes, established and conducted in accordance with God's plan, are a wonderful help in forming Christian character. . . Parents and children should unite in offering loving service to Him who alone can keep human love pure and noble. The first work to be done in a Christian home is to see that the Spirit of Christ abides there, that every member of the household may be able to take his cross and follow where Jesus leads the way." E.G. White
Raising up royalty
“It is the privilege of parents to take their children with them to the
gates of the city of God, saying, "I have tried to instruct my children to
love the Lord, to do His will, and to glorify Him." “God requires parents to bring up their children to know Him and to
respect His claims; they are to train their little ones, as the younger members
of the Lord's family, to have beautiful characters and lovely tempers, that
they may be fitted to shine in the heavenly courts. By neglecting their duty
and indulging their children in wrong, parents close to them the gates of the
city of God.”
Good parents are exemplary
Parenting is a sacred
trust that God has given to parents, this duty does not stem from just a
set of do's and don'ts, if anything that kind of iron rod training, tends to
make children militant and rebellious. True education begins at home, and
raising true men and women of God, depends on the influence of the parents in
the home. Parents are placed by God to be the child's first trainers and
instructors and the lessons that the children learn from infancy, through youth
will determine what life they will choose.
Jesus was an obedient
little boy, He learnt every day at His mother's feet. He also helped His father
Joseph in the carpentry shop, even as a child, Jesus showed by His willingness
around the home that He would grow up to help suffering humanity. Small duties
that the children faithfully perform in the home, will prepare them to be
faithful even in the future.
It is often said that
children mimic (copy) what their parents do. In most cases when a child is
impatient, irreverent and unkind, it calls for serious introspection on the
part of the parents. When correct principles are not lived out by the parents,
it will be reflected by the children. It is thus important that children should
be taught from an early age to be obedient, kind and patient. But most
importantly when the children see their parents expressing love in looks, words
and deeds, the same influence will motivate them to do the same.
Of course we cannot be
ignorant of the influence that Satan might want to exert on the children in
order to discourage parents from their long years of training and instruction.
Even if he seems to be swaying the little flock God has entrusted to you, do
not give up, keep them in prayer and ask God to keep them from giving in to
temptation.
“Train up a child in the way he
should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Proverbs 22:6
Unity in discipline
It is the duty of God
fearing parents to cooperate with God and constantly ask Him for guidance on
which steps to take in disciplining the children and in moulding their characters
for their life as God's instruments in service for humanity, and in reflecting
the precious image of Jesus.
Parents who unitedly
share their duty will be successful in raising their children, the mother as
the personal trainer of the children, while the father as the instructor. From
a tender age the child's will can be bent. Teach them to pray and ask help from
God even in the little things, this will teach them faith and reliance on
Jesus.
Gentle words are said to
turn away wrath, and it should be the privilege of both mother and father to
exercise gentleness without neglecting firmness. Patiently take time to reason
with the children and show them their errors without seeming judgmental While
guiding them, encourage your children to think independently and to come to an
understanding of truth, for themselves. Learn to really listen to them and give
them unconditional love.
“Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not
unto thine own understanding.”
Proverbs 3:5
Teach modesty and chastity
Teach your children godly
reserve and modesty. Teach them spiritual values and practice them. Your
children must know that their bodies are temples of God and must be treated as
such, in eating and dressing, they must reveal that they believe what they have
been taught, and for many young ladies, this will take away undue attention
from young men, but will also exert a powerful influence for the truth on other
youth. How we choose to dress strongly reflects the state of our minds and
hearts.
They must be taught that
cleanliness is next to godliness, that it pleases Jesus when they are neat
orderly as their Master was. This notion that boys must be messy is erroneous
and should be corrected. They must be reminded that their Saviour neatly folded
His grave garments after He rose from the dead, Jesus maintained order. In most
cases such tardiness or neatness reflects the state of the heart, and
spirituality.
Chastity (sexual purity)
must not only be taught to the girls, but must also be emphasized for the boys
too. The father can by exhibiting pure manly traits of character, serve as
an example to the male children how to
grow up and be men after God's heart, taking care of their sisters and
respecting them. Likewise the mother, by her chaste deportment, can exert an
influence upon her growing female children to aspire to be the same.
“Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by
taking heed thereto according to thy word.” Psalm 119:9
From nature and the God of nature
Teach spiritual lessons
from studying nature and from studying about the God who created nature. Memorize Bible texts, and promises, sing songs and teach them Bible stories in a simple
and understandable manner, suitable for their little minds. Perhaps you can
even use a small piece of land to cultivate and to plant. Teach them that the
garden is their heart and should not be
left to have weeds.
Kind hearts are the
gardens,
Kind thoughts are the
roots,
Kind words are the
flowers,
Kind deeds are the
fruits,
Take care of your garden,
And keep out the weeds,
Fill it up with sunshine,
Kind words and kind
deeds.
~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow~
In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.”
Proverbs 3:6
Teach the children
lessons of perseverance, industry and purity irrespective of surroundings.
Remind them that disobedience made Adam and Eve lose Eden, and that it was
because of disobedience, that pain and suffering exist today. Once again, talk
is cheap, but there is nothing as powerful as an exemplary life. Show them by
your obedience and self-control toward God and how you and your husband work
together, adds happiness to the home and your relationship. This will convince
them that, indeed obedience to God and their parents adds happiness and peace.
“The fear of
the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is
understanding.” Proverbs 9:10
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